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Men find women a mystery. No matter how many women you may have met, chances are you still do not understand them. But women do have their wants towards their men, and here are some of them.
Confidence – This can be portrayed in numerous ways, from the “preppy and intelligent” guy to the “sporty” type to the “bad boy” image. What's important is that you are showing to women that you are strong and independent.
A gentleman – Even at this day and age, good guys can finish first. Be that kind of a man who opens the doors for her, that walks on the right side of the street, holds shopping bags for her, offer her your jacket when it's cold. Real men are respectful of women.
A good sense of humor – Make her laugh and avoid being boring.
A good listener – Women talk a lot, and they need their man to listen. However, listening to her includes answering back to her conversations, saying your opinion about certain topics.
Sensitive – Women want to be treated like a woman, not like a man. Even if your girl drinks beer just like the rest of the boys, she is aware that she would rather be treated like a queen by her king.
Faithful – This may be tough, but sticking with your relationship add big points to her. This means that not only that you should not cheat on her, but also not to delve on your past relationships during your discussions.
A friend, not just a lover – A man may be the best lover, but if he is not the best companion then the relationship would be heading nowhere. Be there for her on her bad times. Be attentive to her needs.
Ambition – Women love men who know what they want and how they get it.
Full of thoughtful surprises – Give her gifts that show you were listening when she mentioned her favorite candy bar, the new CD she wants or when she stopped at that jewelry counter to admire a beautiful necklace. This also include simple tasks like making her coffee.
In good shape – You don't have to be super-ripped in order to attract her attention. Just be in good health and good shape would surely catch her eye.
A good financial situation – It's not just because women are after your credit card, but because most women tend to “see their future” with their men. A man with a sound finance is portrayed as the provider of the family.
Be stylish – Just as women are concerned about how they look, they also take concern on how their men dress up. You don't have to be some fashionista, just a basic knowledge of dressing for the right occasion or mixing and matching the right colors works just fine.
Aside from knowing what women want, you should also be aware of what steers them off from your direction. Here are some things that would definitely turn them off.
Flirting with other women – Even if you are on the dating phase, flirting—or even looking—at other women signify that you are not interested with your date.
Getting drunk, in front of her – You can be really drunk while with your friends watching football, but getting drunk with her can be a little awkward. Besides, what if you vomit?
Talking about ex-girlfriend or ex-wives – Past is past. Your relationship is all about “now,” not “then.” Avoid comparing your present relationship with your previous ones either.
Calling people while on a date – Remember to put your mobile phone on silent mode and not talk to your colleagues when dating her. Remember that you should focus your full attention to her during the date or whenever you are together.
Eating quickly – This is especially if the both of you are eating at the restaurant together. You are somewhat giving a message to the girl that you are in a hurry to get away from her. Take your time and enjoy it with her.
Complaining about costly dates – Ranting on how expensive the dinner is would definitely become your last date with her. Also, please don't ask her to pay half of the dinner (she would pay part of the dinner if she wants to).
A braggart – Boasting too much about your job, your car, or your educational achievements, would surely bore most women.
Trying too hard to impress her – Complementing too much, dressing up in styles you are uncomfortable with, or lying your way to impress her do not score well.
Talking to much – Men tend to talk more when they are interested towards women, but not allowing the women to contribute to the conversation would be a definite turn-off.
Saying the wrong words – Even if you do not mean it, certain phrases have negative suggestions when asked to women:
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Avoid asking questions that involve around her past love interests, such as “How long has it been since you last dated,” “What kind of guy was he,” or “What happened?”.
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Looking too ahead with woman is also a bad idea, such as “How many kids do you want,” especially on the first date.
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Sarcastic comments towards her would never have her ask for a second date. Do not vent out quotes like “It is dinner, not an interview.”
In contrast to knowing what men want, you should also be aware of what qualities that makes men turn-off towards women. Avoid the following circumstances:
Getting drunk – The society may accept men getting drunk, but not women. Looking at it, drunk women are not sexy.
Discussing your health problems – Most men have no idea how your body works, and telling them about your menstrual cramps may make them feel uncomfortable.
Making negative comments about men in general – Quotes like “All men are pigs” or “The only good men in the world are either married or gay” would surely have men's ears blaring.
A “business-like” attitude – We agree that women can achieve more than men, even in the field of business. However, this professional yet snobbish attitude should not be imposed when you are dating around with men. Remember that men have insecurities, and an overpowering female would not help at all.
Talking about your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend – Past is past. Your relationship is all about “now,” not “then.” Avoid comparing your present relationship with your previous ones either.
Talking extensively about yourself – Women talk more than men and it's usually about themselves. You can talk endlessly with your girl friends, but not with men. When talking, make sure that you still show your interest in him.
Asking too many questions – Remember that this is a date, not a job interview. Start with a question, he answers with his opinion, then answer with your opinion. One-sided conversations may lead a man to boredom.
Dressing inappropriately – You can dress sexily, but there is a huge difference between sexy and sleazy. For instance, you can wear short skirts, but do not pair it with knee-high boots. Dressing up like a sidewalk prostitute would not make men take you seriously.
Applying too much make-up – Most men would rather see your “natural beauty” than your “clowned-up beauty.”
Being materialistic – Talking to men about shopping or your favorite shoes may give a wrong impression that you are selfish when it comes to relationships.
Women have wondered what do men want in a woman? Was is really all about blond hair and big breasts? Well, not all the time. However, focusing too much on the physical will only get you accepted on the surface level. A little more inch on your waist, and your man may search for a new girl.
In order to get a quality man, you have to be a quality woman. Here are some qualities of what most men want for their woman.
Honest and trustworthy – Men want a woman who is not likely to sneak around and sleep with other guys.
Similar interests – It is best that a woman has similar interests as his. For instance, a man is into skydiving and he wants his woman to have the same passion for adventure. Even if the woman hasn't been skydiving, the man can teach her how to, which the woman would gladly learn.
Presentable appearance – As we said, it's not all about the blond hair and big breasts. What's important is you have good appearance and health. For example, you have clear, bright eyes; a proportionate body (even plus-sized women should retain that “hour-glass” figure); shiny hair; clean nails and body.
An air of mystery – Men like classy women more because they are intriguing, mysterious, and alluring. It also creates an impression that you are hard to get, that men should really pursue you in order to win your affection. For starters, you could dress up appropriately and in style. Remember that there is a huge difference between sexy and sleazy. Unfortunately, many women don't know the difference (and, sadly, men do).
Sense of humor – At the end of the day, humor will keep the relationship running. Having a nice laugh and be able to react positively towards jokes can surely tame a man's heart.
Intelligence and personality – Women should have a right mix of the two. Men like intelligent women with a positive attitude. Strong but not high maintenance. Most men prefer relaxed, yet confident women.
Money-wise – Men respect a woman who is able to manage money. She doesn't impulsively swipe her man's credit card wherever she pleases. She knows where to spend and where to save. Wise money management makes a woman good budget-spenders once she becomes a wife.
Faithful – A good man deserves a good woman. Keep yourself faithful with your man, and your relationship can go places.
Comfortable with her own sexuality – A woman should be aware that she is her man's desire. She could appear as meek as a lamb, but becomes a wild horse when she's in an intimate moment with her man.
Demonstrate your love for the special woman in your life in a number of small deeds. For starters, flowers and candy on special occasions are always nice, but you can also surprise a woman by offering smaller gestures on a daily basis. She would appreciate your thoughtfulness and understand that you are trying to how her how much she means to you. Here are some good examples.
Ask her how her day was – Women enjoy talking about their personal issues and expressing an interest in her career or other areas will be greatly appreciated. Listening carefully to her would let her know that you are fascinated in her thoughts and care about her feelings.
Cook for her – Most women are the primary cooks in the relationship and giving her a night off from her usual kitchen duties is always a welcomed gesture. Don't worry if you don't know how to cook, it's really not that hard. There are many cook books and Internet sites that offer a wide variety of recipes.
Remember and celebrate a small occasion – It's nice to celebrate on big occasions but if you remember the anniversary of another special day, the woman in your life would be completely caught by surprise. For instance, celebrate the anniversary of the day you brought home your new puppy with a trip to a dog park.
Give her compliments – Women tend to expect compliments when they put a lot of effort into their appearance, but letting her know that you think she is beautiful while she's running errands demonstrates that you see her inner beauty shining through all times. Compliments don't always have to be about physical characteristics. You could compliment her on her career accomplishments, for example.
Handing over the remote control – You may not want to sit through another episode of a home decorating show, but allowing the woman in your life to indulge in this without complaining about her choice would show her that you are not belittling her interests.
Get to know her family and friends – Your woman values their relationships and she would be pleased about the fact that you are taking interest and getting to know the other special people in her life.
Write her a love letter – Send your love letter through mail. Sure she sees you almost every day and may even exchange e-mails and phone call on a daily basis, but a love letter is something that she can save in a special place and would be cherished.. Expresing your love in a letter is a special way to tell a woman that you care deeply about her.
Plan a trip – A vacation is alwas nice, but when you take the initiative and plan out all the details ahead of time, it shows that you want her to have the enjoyable experience of the trip. And at the same time, you are willing to take care of all the planning.
Surprise her at work – Show up for a lunch date. Your woman would love to be surprised and your lunch date would give her the opportunity to get out of the office for a little while and enjoy some time with you. Many woman skip lunch of work straight through it, but giving her the opportunity to break away from her desk for even a half hour would give her a welcomed chance to relax a little bit.
Open the car door for her – Women enjoy being independent, but small chivalrous gestures are always appreciated. If you normally rush to the driver's side of the car and hop in, stop once in a while to open her door first. It shows that you want to protect and care for her and would make her feel well-loved.
Have you never tried online dating sites? Online dating sites offers many advantages over other dating alternatives. Here is a list of just some of those benefits.
Inexpensive Cost - A membership on a good online dating site is affordable and give you the opportunity to maximize your time.
Learn about the person quickly - At a bar you can meet someone talk to her few hours and never find out about important information’s about her. Amazingly online lots of them reveal it right away.
Your get more options - In the real world you are limited to the girls that are around you. Online, the girls just need to have signed up for the site that you are on and you can join multiple sites as well.
Chance she see your strengths - At a bar a girl see you differently. First, they will be open to talk with you if you are attractive for them. Online it is different. The girl gets to look you over and if you have created yourself a quality profile, build you up based on all your strengths and then get to know the real you.
Time to select - At a bar if you see two girls that you like you have at least 5 seconds to select which one you want to talk to first. Online the girls going anywhere and if two girls email you at once you can answer both at your own pace.
There are amazing nice things that you can do for the man in your life to let him know how much he means to you. This is all about concerning for his personality and hobbies to demonstrate that you care about him. Surprise your man with these thoughtful and tailored gestures.
Have his car professionally detailed – Many men take pride in their car and enjoy spreading their time to make sure it looks and runs its best. You can let him know that you understand his fascination with his car by making the arrangements to have the car detailed. If he will be out of town for a few days, try making the arrangements so that it will be a surprise for him when he returns. If you are unable to do this in secret, go ahead and let him know about your plans.
Complete a chore that he does in the house – If he usually takes care of mowing the lawn, plan to come home from work early one day to mow the lawn before he gets home. He will not only be excited to not having to take care of this chore but will also be excited that you recognize the effort he puts forth into completing this chore.
Purchasing a gadget – Many men enjoy all types of gadgets and figuring out one that he is interested in and purchasing it for him will be a very welcomed gift. It will also show him that you were paying attention while he was talking about this gadget and you understand how much it means to him.
Meeting him at work – Surprising the man in your life is another nice thing you can do for him. Take him out to lunch and spend some extra time with each other. The element of surprise will let him know that you are thinking of him. Also, having a break in his day where he can relax and enjoy your company will make the rest of the day seem to go by much more quickly for him.
Take control of plans for a date – Men are usually the ones who are in charge of planning and paying for dates so he will be grateful for you making date arrangements for a night. Carefully plan out a fun date filled with activities that he will enjoy and don't rely on him to take care of any details, even in paying for the date. The man in your life will feel pampered for the evening and will enjoy having the stress of date planning off his shoulders.
Pick up a magazine or book of his interest – Doing so would let him know that you understand his interest and that you want him to have some time to enjoy thinking about his favorite hobby.
Learn about his favorite sport – He may enjoy spending his weekends watching his favorite sports teams and, if you are not normally a fan of this sport, you will surprise him by taking an active interest. Try doing some research on your own to learn a little more about his favorite sport and team and the next time he is watching a game, sit with him and ask pertinent questions. He would be astonished at you knowledge and eager to teach you more.
Buy him flowers – Women receive flowers for special occasions and sometimes for no reason at all. However, men don't often receive flowers so showing up with a bouquet for him will be a welcomed surprise. He would appreciate the novelty of the gift and be delighted with the gesture.
Purchase tickets to see his favorite band in concert – While his type of music may not be your first choice, it's something he enjoys so give him a chance to indulge himself. He would be excited to share his music with you and will be glad that you are interested in hearing the music with him.
Learn to barbecue – Many men enjoy barbecued foods, and they would also appreciate the opportunity to indulge in them without having to do any of the work. Preparing a barbecue would let him know that you realize it's a meal he enjoys and that you appreciate the effort he usually puts forward to prepare his meal.
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